Oh So True

I saw this on Yahoo yesterday and it made me realize just how many of these people I have in my life.

5 Behaviors of Manipulative People
by Brett Blumenthal - Sheer Balance, on Wed Dec 2, 2009 9:40am PST

Many of us like to think the best of people. We like to think that they shoot straight and are forthright in their intentions. We also like to believe that they will ask for what they want and not resort to crazy tactics to get it. Unfortunately, however, there are times when we come across those who will do whatever it takes to get what they want...including manipulation. Being manipulated never feels good, but the worst part of manipulation is that often, we don’t even realize that it is happening. Here are a few ways to know if someone is trying to manipulate you:

Buttering You Up: To get their way, manipulators will often make you feel good so that they can then ask you to do something that they want. The person may first compliment you or tell you what a wonderful job you did on something. Making you feel good will, in their mind, make it difficult for you to say no…after all, you wouldn’t want to disappoint them or give them reason to think you didn’t deserve the compliment in the first place. What you can do: Return the compliments and the niceties before saying no.

Guilt: This doesn’t only pertain to Catholics and Jewish Mothers; guilt trips have been a successful manipulation tactic for centuries. The saddest part of this strategy is that the victims of this tactic succumb to the manipulators’ demands because they feel they HAVE to, not because they WANT to. In personal relationships, this sets up a co-dependency that is extremely unhealthy. What you can do: Ask the individual if they want you to do something because you have to or because you want to. If they say they want you to want to do it, tell them that you don’t and that they are trying to force you into something you don’t feel comfortable with.

Broken Record: Probably the most obvious of formats is the broken record tactic. If a person asks you enough or pushes their agenda enough…constantly repeating the question or request over and over again…in slightly different ways, the victim will inevitably give in and give them what they want. Oye! What you can do: Ask the individual what they don’t understand about the word “no.” Tell them that asking you over and over again isn’t going to change anything and that they are inappropriately over-stepping boundaries.

Selective Memory: This one gets me the most. You swear you have a conversation about a plan and everyone is on the same page, and then one day, the manipulator pretends to remember the conversation completely differently, if at all. What you can do: Record your conversations…seriously! Okay, maybe not. At least have a witness that you can count on to back you up if the person pulls this shenanigan. Call them out on the fact that they conveniently change the game to fit their needs.

Bullying: If a person doesn’t get their way, they make you out to look or feel like the bad guy…like you are the wrong one. What you can do: Be firm and tell them that their bullying tactics are inappropriate and unacceptable.

Keep your eyes open for these behaviors and continue to stand your ground to ensure that you aren’t a victim of manipulation. Have you seen any other types of manipulative behavior?

How many of these people do we all have in our lives? Sad.... but true... what... oh what ...is one to do?

School Pictures

With the advancement of cameras and the new found ease in which your average Joe can take and edit their own pictures, enabling them to look as if they have been professionally taken, one would think that professional photographers (especially big photography companies) would be much more competitive in their pricing. Generally speaking of course as I have only had experience with the one company that has my blood boiling; the big and widely known school portrait company Lifetouch Portraits.
Year after year I have watched the cost of their portrait packages go up and the number of actual portraits in each package go down. With the number of schools across the nation that they do business with I find it incredibly distasteful, disgusting, and repulsive that they have chosen to literally rape the parents of this nation's school system. There is NO reason and NO excuse why they should have such high prices for their portraits with the widely available technology out there. Their continued price increase and product decrease is a huge slap in the face to all parents; SHAME on Lifetouch Portraits for being so greedy and failing to think innovatively for those that keep them in business; yes Lifetouch in case you were wondering those would be your CUSTOMERS.

First Time ~ Blogging Virgin

I have thought for some time of putting my thoughts and opinions out there as a therapeutic form of release and in hopes to hear from people with the same opinions and theories as myself. Of course, who doesn't want the satisfaction of ranting without really pissing anyone (at least anyone that can actually do anything stupid) off and yet knowing someone , somewhere is listening.
I don't have any one specific thing to say, just a bunch of little things that seem to pop into my head at different points in the day. When an experience or in dealing with someone that upsets me or makes me happy or anything in between, like when I am laying in bed at night, lounging in the tub, driving down the road, or just daydreaming I find myself thinking of the issues and events of the day or hearing something on the news or radio and I think to myself "I have an opinion on that, I have something to say."
I don't know how well I can translate the thoughts and feelings that flow with such passion from me into the written word without losing the integrity in which I feel at the time I think or feel it. I guess that is the age old problem that separates the ones who can from the ones who cannot.
I will take the plunge and attempt to do justice to the experiences, feelings, opinions and on occasion the adventures that I have.